I'm always being asked what makes a guy attractive to me. The secrets of attraction are something people have pondered since Eve looked at Adam and set out to change him! So why is it some guys just have women eating out of their hands and some are forgotten within moments of the first encounter. You can fool yourself it's all down to drop dead gorgeous looks, but some ugly guys get the girls too.
Of course to die for looks are an advantage and girls ogling gorgeous semi naked guys in jeans ads and fizzy drink ads are there for a reason, it is real life, but only up to a point. Of course we lust after gorgeous guys the way you lust after beautiful women, but it's only one of the secrets of attraction and unless you can afford surgery it's the one that's hardest to do anything about.
Ordinarily I don't lock eyes with strange men, but if I do and he smiles it makes me tingle all over, whether he's hot or not in the looks department. He'll probably only get eye contact if I'm looking directly at him when he looks at me, when that moment happens I feel self conscious looking away, so I look straight into his eyes and I can't help it I want to see a reaction. So here's a really useful tip, don't stare, glance. If you're walking down a street and you see a hot babe walking towards you do not stare at her all the way hoping for eye contact, she'll pick up on it from miles off and avoid looking. If you're walking towards her and not gazing her way she can give you the once over and she's more likely to do that if you have good posture, nice clothes, a confident manner. When you get close just glance at her, if your eyes lock, that's the magic moment to smile and maybe say something. Sometimes in the secrets of attraction - less is more.
Of course in the street it won't necessarily lead to a conversation but the same rule applies across the room at a party for example and the beauty of it is that if you glance at her and she's looking somewhere else she doesn't know, so no rejection feelings and you can do it again, as often as you like until she does see you and hopefully locks on. Naturally you could just walk over and say hi. There was a line in a war movie where a colonel is briefing a soldier to lead an unlikely mission, he says something like "a smile from a pretty girl at a party rarely results in climax, but a man would be a fool not to push the suggestion as far as it will go". It's true and a spontaneous mutual smile is the best start you could want.
Really the secrets of attraction resolve around persona, even overweight, dodgy looking guys can pull gorgeous women if the attraction of the persona is great enough. We can't help our genes and somewhere inside we're looking for a good father, provider whether we admit it or not, even as a lover. You don't just need to be fit to fulfill that fantasy role; confidence, intelligence, a manner and a look that suggests success, shrewdness and it has to be admitted a sense of humour, these are the real secrets of attraction.
You don't need the highest IQ in the world to gain knowledge, people mistake a knowledgeable person for an intelligent one, so make sure you know about a range of things and can hold a conversation, dress to suggest success, if you're not confident learn to pretend and soon you will be confident and finally flirt a lot, you'll get knock backs, but you'll learn which secrets of attraction work for you.
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